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A Step-by-Step Guide to Loving Yourself

January 25, 2023

Loving yourself is incredibly important for your overall well-being. When you love yourself, you develop a strong sense of self-esteem and self-worth which can open the door to a healthier relationship with yourself and others. Learning to love yourself means being kind to yourself, accepting yourself for who you are: your weaknesses and strengths, and honoring your uniqueness. 

Taking the time to nurture a positive relationship with yourself is a powerful way to improve your life and create a happier and more fulfilling future. This article will provide tips for how to love yourself in all four areas of your life: physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual.

A step-by-step guide to loving yourself

Loving your physical self: looking after your body

Taking care of your body is a great way to show yourself love and appreciation. If you haven’t been putting in the effort to do so, that’s okay – today is the perfect day to start. 

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Here are some ideas you can use to nourish and nurture your body. 

1. Make time for self-care. 

Making time for self-care is an essential aspect of loving yourself. A relaxing bath, yoga session, or massage can help you feel more connected to your body. When you carve out time for something that’s just for you, even if only for ten minutes a day, the message you send to yourself is that you’re worth it. So spend some time each day to show yourself some love.

2. Notice your physical “positives.” 

Stand in front of the mirror and really look at yourself. Don’t focus on what you want to change. Instead, try to appreciate what you like about your appearance. It could be your eyes, your smile, your legs, or the shape of your face. 

Spend time acknowledging the physical features you admire each day. With time, you’ll begin to find more and more things about your physical body that you love, and soon, the “negatives” won’t seem as important. 

It is vital to note that everything about you, even the parts you try to cover up, all come together to make you a beautiful, wondrous being. It’s what makes you unique. So, love your body and fall in love with your perfect imperfections.

3. Get enough sleep. 

Another critical step in loving yourself is ensuring you are making time to rest. Aim for 7-9 hours of restful sleep each day. Getting enough sleep is essential for our physical and mental health. Not only does it help us to feel more energized and productive during the day, but it also helps to regulate our body’s hormones and strengthen our immune system. 

Studies have found that people who don’t get enough sleep are more likely to suffer from chronic health issues like depression and obesity. Not getting enough sleep can also lead to problems with concentration and memory and decreased creativity. Therefore, it’s essential to ensure you’re getting enough sleep every night to stay healthy and productive. 

4. Feed your body good things. 

Making your physical health a priority is a wonderful and essential way to show love to yourself. Eat nutritious, whole foods that make you feel energized and nourished. You can take it one step further and speak to a nutritionist to discover the type of nourishment your body needs.

5. Get regular exercise.

Incorporating exercise into your daily routine can be a powerful way to show yourself some love and appreciation. It helps us feel good about our bodies and minds and can positively affect our overall well-being. You can do something as simple as walking, jogging, practicing yoga, or participating in a more intense exercise routine. 

Setting aside time for physical activity can help to reduce stress, improve sleep, and boost your mood. Exercise can also help us to feel connected to our bodies, allowing us to understand our needs better and make self-care decisions that are best for us. So even if it’s just for 15 minutes per day, get that body moving.

6. Acknowledge what your body does for you. 

Appreciate your body’s remarkable ability to support you every day. Your body allows you to move and explore, use your hands to create, and have the energy that helps you tackle even the most difficult days. Find gratitude for all your body does for you and show your body the love it deserves.

7. Take time to relax. 

Taking moments during the day to relax and breathe is essential for our well-being. These moments can range from brief pauses to longer breaks, like a summer holiday, winter break, or a weekend away. Allowing ourselves to take a break from our daily routines helps us to recharge our bodies and minds.

Loving your intellectual self: feeding your mind.

Loving yourself involves feeding your mind with stimulating activities. Taking the time to challenge and engage your brain with meaningful tasks, positive thoughts, and ideas will help develop mental strength and clarity.

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Here are some practical ways to love yourself by stimulating your mind.

1. Pursue your passions and dreams. 

Invest in yourself by getting to know what really matters to you. Take time to ponder and ask yourself, “What do I feel strongly about?” Then, dig deeper into that subject. Research it, practice it, and explore its depths. If something sparks your interest, make it a priority. 

The same goes for your dreams. Once you’ve identified what you truly want, make an effort to work towards it daily. There’s no better way to express self-love than to strive to give yourself what you truly want.

Free Resource: Passion and Purpose Workbook

2. Stay connected.

Interacting with people in person can provide various stimulating activities to help keep your mind sharp. From engaging in thought-provoking conversations to having a platform to express your ideas and opinions, connecting with people in the physical world offers a variety of opportunities to learn and grow. Plus, you’ll get to stay up to date on the current state of the world and discover new perspectives.

3. Avoid doing things just because “it’s always been this way.” 

Instead of blindly following the same old routines day after day, strive to make conscious and thoughtful decisions. Take the time to consider the implications of your choices and how they may affect your life. Make the most of your time and prioritize the things that matter most to you. Living with intention can help you become more aware of your own way of being and give you greater control over your life. 

4. Take a personal inventory of your life. 

It’s essential to take a moment to reflect on your life and take a personal inventory. To get started:

  • Make a list of your most important personal characteristics. 
  • Once you have the list, grab a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. 
  • On the left side, jot down what’s working; on the right side, write down what’s not working. 
  • After you’ve identified the areas of your life that need improvement, decide to set goals to work on. 

This exercise will help you understand what your “thinking self” needs to stay motivated and succeed. 

Focusing on what you need to challenge yourself intellectually is a great way to demonstrate that you value yourself and your happiness.

5. Consider how you can make a positive impact on the world. 

Take some time to think about how you’d like your life, and the lives of others, to be. Aim to live the same way you wish others to live. Intentionally choose to make the changes you want to see in the world by leading by example. As Mahatma Gandhi wisely said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

You may be wondering how this is related to self-love. But when you’re devoting your time and energy to making the world a better place, it’s difficult not to feel good about yourself.

6. Find your power. 

When you recognize the power you have over your mind, the possibilities for your life become limitless. You can use the power of your mind to enrich your life and create meaningful experiences. Alongside that power, acquiring knowledge is essential to unlocking its potential. With knowledge comes power, and when you access this power, you will feel empowered and full of self-confidence and self-love.

Loving your emotional self: understanding and respecting your own feelings

The most crucial facet of loving yourself is taking great care of your emotional self. What you believe to be true about yourself illustrates the degree to which you love and accept yourself.

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Try these tips to love yourself more by taking care of your emotional being:

1. Accept yourself. 

Start to recognize that you are as valuable and special as everyone else. Allow yourself to believe this truly. You can use this affirmation to help you remember this – “I am valuable, I am worthy, I am enough.” Take a moment right now and say this phrase out loud a few times. Then write it down and place it where you can easily see it. Reflect on this affirmation twice a day, once in the morning and once in the evening. Watch for subtle shifts in the way you view yourself.

2. Journal. 

Taking a few moments to focus on the things you like about yourself can be a great way to cultivate a positive relationship with yourself. Journaling is a great tool to help you connect with your inner strengths and fortify your sense of self-worth. 

Here are some self-love journaling ideas:

  • Write down and reflect on a self-love affirmation each day.
  • As a part of your evening/night routine, write down one thing you were proud of yourself for accomplishing that day.
  • Start a journal entry focused on identifying your strengths, what makes you unique, and the personal achievements you’re most proud of.
  • Write a love letter or a thank-you note to yourself.

Writing down your thoughts is an opportunity to acknowledge and appreciate all the qualities that make you unique and special. When you appreciate the positive things about yourself, you can more easily tap into your inner strength and self-confidence.

Free Resource: 70 journaling prompts for self-love

3. Avoid negative self-talk. 

Another essential aspect of loving yourself is avoiding negative self-talk. Negative self-talk is harmful to your self-esteem and overall emotional well-being. When you start to engage in negative thoughts about yourself, try to replace them with positive ones. Focusing on positive and uplifting thoughts can help you stay motivated and in control of your emotions. 

Additionally, finding ways to express gratitude to yourself can be beneficial. Take time each day to focus on your accomplishments and successes, no matter how small they may be. Lastly, try to practice self-compassion and be gentle with yourself. It’s okay to make mistakes and not be perfect. Rather than letting yourself be weighed down by self-criticism, take the opportunity to learn, grow, and become a better version of yourself.

4. Forgive others. 

Learning to forgive others can be a challenging but necessary task for your emotional well-being. Forgiving others helps us to let go of the weight of anger and pain we accumulate when someone hurts us. 

See, forgiving others is more for you than the other person. When you forgive someone, you allow yourself to heal from the trauma, enabling you to move on without the added burden of difficult emotions. But what do we do about the other person? Well, that all depends on you.

You can allow someone who has hurt you to remain in your life if they are genuinely sorry and make an effort not to repeat the same behavior. It is also perfectly acceptable to forgive someone and still choose not to be involved with them in the future. You get to choose who and what you allow in your life. That choice is a critical part of loving yourself.

5. Forgive yourself.

Just as it is important to forgive others, it is equally important to forgive ourselves. Our emotional well-being is profoundly affected when we don’t accept our mistakes and forgive ourselves for them. Holding onto our guilt and regret can lead to an increase in stress, anxiety, and depression. When we forgive ourselves, we lessen these effects, allowing us to move forward with our lives. 

6. Set healthy boundaries. 

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. Recognize that it’s perfectly acceptable to set boundaries and limits with people who are not treating you well. Don’t allow anyone to harm you emotionally. Show yourself that you value your worth and self-respect by leaving any situation where you feel uncomfortable and disrespected. Even if it may be challenging, it’s important to distance yourself from those negative relationships to protect and nurture your self-love. Allowing yourself to walk away from these unhealthy dynamics will build a stronger connection to your self-worth.

In essence, understanding and acknowledging your own feelings validates your existence. By being honest with yourself about your feelings and taking action in accordance with them, you honor and show love to yourself.

Loving your spiritual self: caring for your soul.

Taking care of your spiritual well-being is an integral part of loving yourself. Finding ways to connect with your spirituality is a great way to nurture your physical, emotional, and mental health. 

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Here are some ideas for how to deepen your spiritual well-being. 

1. Spend time in nature. 

Nature has a way of bringing us closer to our inner selves and helping us to feel more connected to the world around us. Connecting with the beauty and energy of the natural world can help to cultivate a sense of peace and contentment; while also deepening your spiritual connection. Consider taking a regular walk in a nearby park, gardening, or even just taking a few minutes to sit and observe the birds and other wildlife in your backyard. When you do, let go of any expectations and simply allow yourself to be in the moment. You may find that you come away with a greater sense of inner peace and spiritual awareness.

2. Practice mindfulness. 

Mindfulness is the practice of becoming aware of our present moment experience with acceptance, compassion, and non-judgment. When we are mindful, we are consciously connecting with our thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations. This practice can help us become more aware of our environment, reactions, and emotions. Mindfulness can help us become more resilient, better able to cope with stress and create healthier relationships with ourselves and others. Mindfulness can also help us become more aware of our own needs and develop better self-care practices. It is an essential practice for fostering a sense of acceptance, self-compassion, and spiritual well-being.

3. Meditate. 

Meditation is an incredibly powerful tool for improving and maintaining spiritual well-being. Meditation can open us up to spiritual insights, help us recognize and appreciate life’s beauty and mystery, and give us access to deeper levels of spiritual understanding and wisdom.

Additionally, studies have shown that regular meditation can reduce the symptoms of depression, increase feelings of inner contentment, and create a greater sense of connection to the world around us. 

4. Connect with a spiritual community. 

Belonging to a supportive spiritual community can be an excellent way to strengthen your connection to your spiritual beliefs. 

5. Be adventurous. 

Embark on a journey of discovery. Step out of your comfort zone and explore something new. Consider the possibilities that await you: climbing a peak, running a 5K, or visiting ancient monuments in a faraway land. Seek out whatever your courageous spirit craves and make it happen. You will be filled with wonder and joy when you do.

Working on your spiritual self helps deepen your connection to who you really are. So spend some time discovering the you that is beyond the physical and watch how your relationship with yourself and those around you changes.

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Final thoughts on loving yourself wholly

There are many ways to show love to yourself, but the most crucial point I want you to remember is that you are worthy of love. Everything about you is uniquely and wonderfully made. You are deeply, deeply loved. So take the time to fall in love with yourself all over again and give yourself the care and attention you deserve. Remember to be gentle with yourself, accept who you are, and find beauty in everything you do.

As always, I’d love to hear from you in the comments. What does loving yourself mean to you? What challenges have you encountered on your self-love journey? Do you think self-love is necessarily linked to well-being? If so, is it a vital piece of the puzzle or only one of many ways to achieve well-being? I am looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

I love, honor, and appreciate you.

Thanks for reading!

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Valene Lindsay

As the CEO & founder of the Unfolding Rose, I am passionate about helping women reconnect to their higher self, discover their purpose & create a life they truly desire.
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